Who makes the purchasing decisions?
The first thing to consider in a relationship when it comes to shopping is whose job it is to shop. It might be of course that the purchase of toys (or indeed of anything) might be made by the Dom without the sub being aware of what new toys might await him or her. For some this might work really well since it adds the element of surprise about what new toy or item might be added to a session until it’s brought out and used, however sometimes it is nice to know what is coming also.
In our relationship it’s a mix really. Sometimes Grimly buys things without me knowing, and sometimes we buy things together. Sometimes I also like buying items that he doesn’t know about and having the fun of wondering how he will incorporate it into play and also whether or …
